Dealing With Infidelity - How to Get Control of Your Life Back

Dealing with infidelity is one of the most pain staking experiences a person will ever go through. Although many of us know someone or at least heard about other relationships that were wrecked because of unfaithfulness, we never imagined it could happen to us.

There are so many questions to be answered and decisions to be made that often times it's difficult to know where to start. I hope this article can give you a start on getting control of your life back.

One of the important steps in dealing with infidelity is figuring out what you need and want for you to be healed and happy. I think it's safe to say that you have been wounded and now have some needs that need to be met.

You probably need your partner to give you some time and space as you begin recovering from the affair. There will be a time for working together as you get a little further along in the healing process, but if you need time and space right now then make sure you take it. It doesn't mean that you should kick the cheating partner out but he or she must respect your wishes for how you want to deal with the affair.

You may also need to find a way to process your emotions or find an outlet to ensure that you don't hold it all in. For some people, writing in a journal seems to help because it gives them an opportunity to get what they are feeling off their chest.

For others, confiding in a very close friend seems to be helpful. Obviously it's important that the person confided in can be trusted. It can be harmful to your relationship if the affair is gossiped about. Find what works best for you.

Figure out what you need your cheating partner to do right now and work on getting him or her to work towards meeting your need, so that dealing with infidelity is less of a burden on you.

For example, do you need your partner to show or prove that the affair is over? If so, what is it that you want to see to make you comfortable that at least the infidelity is over? I believe one of the keys to dealing with infidelity is to begin to rebuild trust. If you believe the affair is still going on healing will be nearly impossible.

Dealing with infidelity will severely test your character and strength because your heart and mind will be at war as you try to figure out the why, how, when and what's next in your life and relationship.

I truly hope that you find a way to at least be patient and resilient enough to give yourself time and an opportunity to restore your relationship. Although dealing with infidelity is very difficult there is no reason to believe you can't forgive and love again.

I know it's hard and you are hurting but please take 2 more minutes and read more about a couple whose relationship was hit by infidelity. The couple was not only able to survive but thrive after the affair. Please see here at Affair Repair for more details and help regarding dealing with infidelity.