Remember that your grooms speech on your wedding day is a unique opportunity. You may never have this chance to make a lasting impression again. This is the moment when two become one, and a life of being a single man becomes a life shared with the one you love. Your grooms speech will be a chance to publicly declare your love for your new bride, to thank your parents for your life up to this point, and to convince your in-laws that their daughter has chosen well. Most important of all, it is the chance for you to publicly convey your feelings for your new wife to everyone present.Imagine how wonderful that will make her feel on this the most important and happiest day of her life.
This is so important that it deserves plenty of thought and consideration. Remember this is your one chance to make a perfect grooms speech, and the right speech at this time will leave a lifetime's impression, in your wife's heart and in the memories of all your family and friends. ( Especially if it is recorded for posterity!)
The most important thing is that your grooms speech comes from your heart. The writing of the speech will then come easily and naturally. Start as early as possible with an outline of what you want to say. You can then expand this as ideas come to you. Write them down so they are not lost. At this stage you are not writing a wedding speech, you are collecting your feelings and thoughts, and anecdotes, and stories to illustrate them. The first step is to begin ! Once you get into the flow, your feelings and thoughts will provide the words. The more the words are your own and from your heart, the easier it will be for you when it comes to giving the speech.
If you find that the moment you pick up a pen, your thoughts and feelings jump out of the window, then maybe you could be better speaking them into a recorder or using speech to text software on your computer. Don't worry, at this stage, about making sense of it all, record your feelings first and foremost, and when it's all down on paper or computer, then you can assemble into some kind of order.
Your thoughts and feelings, put down in your own words. That will be the secret of a meaningful and lasting impression. Start with an outline and bullet points and expand these into the speech of your life. This may be your last chance to give your opinion or get a word in edgewise! ( Only joking!)
If you are a funny guy, - let me rephrase, - if humor comes naturally, then by all means use it to your advantage, but don't force it. If you aren't naturally funny, a quick one-liner at the start of the speech will help to settle your nerves and settle the audience, but don't detract from the main essentials. Leave the main humor up to your best man ! That's his job.
Once your thoughts and words are assembled, hopefully well in advance, then comes the time to practice.Speaking from the heart and speaking from bits of paper are two entirely different things. Practice, practice, practice. Practice to anyone or anything that will listen. Practice to your mirror, to your dog, to your cat, to sheep, to the trees. Change things that don't work. Rearrange things that sound wrong.
Delivering Your Wedding SpeechShould you use notes? If you can manage without, then no. If you need some help then one card with the main points should be enough, but reading things that should come from the heart will not make the impression that you need to make.
A quick word about alcohol, it will not help. On this day of all days, you owe it to everyone to stay focused. You will not get flustered if you concentrate on the people who you need to impress. The speech does not need to be too long, but it needs to contain the essentials. Take it slowly. Remember, it's not about you!
I hope that you find these tips helpful for making your perfect grooms speech. Good luck and please let me know how it works out....................
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